The Commitment Question

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How to turn dating fireworks into a committed and loving long-term relationship.

The first and most obvious answer to the commitment question is that you both have to want to want a solid long-term relationship. It’s not something you can force or manipulate. Which is one of the reasons, here at Bloom Consultancy, we only work with singles who are serious about commitment. But there are other steps you can take as a new couple to deepen your shared commitment and pave the way for a long and happy future.

We have brought together some of our top tips for building commitment below.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Talk can be cheap, and it’s very easy to make all the right noises about being a committed partner. But commitment, real commitment, has to be demonstrated. It’s about putting your partner at the top of your priorities list and behaving in a way that reflects this. If you’re consistently choosing evenings hanging out with workmates over spending time with your new partner, then you’re probably not doing a great job on the commitment front. Putting them first, both in thought and action, is a skill you should be working on.

Develop Shared Expectations

Commitment means different things to different people. Which is why it’s vital, when it becomes clear that a new relationship has a potential future, that you discuss your expectations. If you’re hoping for marriage and babies within a year and they are hoping to maybe move in together in five, then you are on different pages. It’s tough, but if you’re serious about a lasting relationship you need to be on the same (or nearly) the same page.

Constantly Renew Your Commitment

Commitment isn’t a tick box exercise. You can’t simply say you are committed at the start of a relationship and that’s that. It’s something that needs to grow with you as a couple. And it’s natural that this level of commitment will grow more intense over time. Seeing each other three times a week may feel very committed in your early days but after 18 months that probably isn’t going to cut it. From small steps, like introducing them to your friends to big steps like popping the question, commitment is a continuum.

If you’re looking for a committed relationship that will grow over a lifetime, we can help. As professional matchmakers, we bring people together who share values and aspirations. Meaning you’re much more likely to discover that special person who shares your hopes and dreams for the future. Get in touch today to find out more.

The first and most obvious answer to the commitment question is that you both have to want to want a solid long-term relationship. It’s not something you can force or manipulate. Which is one of the reasons, here at Bloom Consultancy, we only work with singles who are serious about commitment. But there are other steps you can take as a new couple to deepen your shared commitment and pave the way for a long and happy future. 

We have brought together some of our top tips for building commitment below.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

 Talk can be cheap, and it’s very easy to make all the right noises about being a committed partner. But commitment, real commitment, has to be demonstrated. It’s about putting your partner at the top of your priorities list and behaving in a way that reflects this. If you’re consistently choosing evenings hanging out with workmates over spending time with your new partner, then you’re probably not doing a great job on the commitment front. Putting them first, both in thought and action, is a skill you should be working on.

 Develop Shared Expectations

 Commitment means different things to different people. Which is why it’s vital, when it becomes clear that a new relationship has a potential future, that you discuss your expectations. If you’re hoping for marriage and babies within a year and they are hoping to maybe move in together in five, then you are on different pages. It’s tough, but if you’re serious about a lasting relationship you need to be on the same (or nearly) the same page.

 Constantly Renew Your Commitment

 Commitment isn’t a tick box exercise. You can’t simply say you are committed at the start of a relationship and that’s that. It’s something that needs to grow with you as a couple. And it’s natural that this level of commitment will grow more intense over time. Seeing each other three times a week may feel very committed in your early days but after 18 months that probably isn’t going to cut it. From small steps, like introducing them to your friends to big steps like popping the question, commitment is a continuum.

 If you’re looking for a committed relationship that will grow over a lifetime, we can help. As professional matchmakers, we bring people together who share values and aspirations. Meaning you’re much more likely to discover that special person who shares your hopes and dreams for the future. Get in touch today to find out more.

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